No judgment please!

We live in The Incredible India, the place where people judge you by the way you dress up, talk, walk, eat, live and do everything. People who don’t even know you, people passing you by on a road, people you are working with etc. judge you and keep that perception about you in their mind.

Obviously judgmental nature comes with the human nature but at least get to know the person and then stick to your perception.

The girl sitting alone on the last bench with her earphones plugged in, had got attitude if she is not talking to anyone. If guys of her class approach her and talk to her then she is a slut because she talks to guys only. The girl talking sweetly with everyone is a flirt. The girl getting frank soon is easy going. The girl wearing shorts, partying and boozing is easy to take to bed. The girl who is flirting wants to have sex with you and it goes on and on. I mean come on, you have no clue what is going in her head and why she is like this? Stop taking everything in a twisted way, for once stop making perceptions!

May be she is a screw up and all she needs at the moment is no judgment.

Stop judging! Everyone has his/her own issues and you don’t know what that person is actually feeling because of them, unless you know the person or you have been through the person in that phase.

I am writing this from a girl's perspective because I and my girl-friends have experienced this. It gets hard when you can’t be yourself with people around. Everyone goes or is going through some thing and that changes the person a little bit. Instead of being all judgmental, prefer to be quiet and supportive or if you can't be supportive, just be quiet.

This judgmental nature of people pisses me off. This has been the reason so many times when I have seen people doing something which they don’t want to but are doing just to escape from the judgment. You may not realize but your judgmental nature is sometimes harsh and if it goes on for long then people might avoid sharing their problems with you. So try not to be judgmental. Just try it once. It makes you feel good and most importantly the people around you. 

The Un-happiness

Warning: Those who are in a good mood or having a good day, kindly DO NOT READ this as you might get nostalgic. Bookmark the page and save it for a better time!

It poisons your thoughts from inside. It makes you think of all of the bad stuff ever happened to you and makes you feel that your life is full of crap. It is a bitch, I swear! It makes you crazy in teeny tiny bits. You try to remain positive and calm but nothing helps. You feel like the loneliest person with no shoulders to cry on. You feel lazy, sad and pathetic. It makes you do things you never thought you would do and the worst part is you enjoy doing those things. It makes you listen to the same song again and again till you feel completely hollow. It changes you and turns you into a different person. A changed and different you. Whether you like it or not, it happens. You have fights with your loved ones. You want them to take care of you but somewhere you want to be all alone like you are some super-hero! You are confused about everything. You don’t want to face anyone, you don’t want to smile anymore and be sweet to anyone.

All you feel is depressed and shitty the whole time. You feel like doing nothing, just lying in bed over-thinking. You don’t feel anything, ANYTHING! Getting a glass of water seems like a herculean task. Your way of thinking, way to react at things, way to proceed with things changes and most of the times this change isn't good. You don't feel like picking any call but deep inside you keep hoping that someone would call and give you a good news that would cheer you up.

Let me tell you my way of getting through this.

Just think you are on your own. The people you trust, love and admire the most might not understand what you are going through. So just try to get through it all alone, you will feel so damn strong after all it is over. That phase is tough. Taking a shower also feels like a pain. You feel flawed all the time. Worthless totally! Let yourself free at that time. Don’t over-think, just don’t think. Smile only when you want to, don’t force yourself for something you don’t want to do. Soon you will feel better when you will get that you can go through this and then you can start thinking all the positive and optimistic stuff.

This unhappiness phase beats the crap out of you. You do feel pathetic and at the end of the day, you are the strongest you have ever been so just be patient while you are in this phase. But remember some or other day it will end. IT WILL.

The rush

The sudden rush in your head you get when just for a second your mind is empty can really bring a drastic change in your mood. No one out there has had a life with all bright colors and flowers. Everyone has to face problems so one day they can be a smartass.
 

But sometimes when all those sad moments come rushing to your head, it becomes tough! When suddenly the bitter truth bites you, you get weak. When the unacceptable reality waves you hi, you cannot turn your back and avoid it. These fired up thoughts shake you up from deep inside.

What do you do then? What can you do in middle of the night? Even you get tired of calling up your friends and whining about your problems. You do feel like talking to a person at that time but because of some or the other reason, you don’t and that person can be anyone, your partner, your best friend, your sibling or anyone!

During such rush, you stay strong thinking that this is just a phase and it will pass away. Nothing remains same forever. You think of the happy and beautiful moments you had and you smile thinking of them. You hope for more such moments and you tell yourself that you will be fine like always. You wait for another beautiful sunrise. You listen to some good music and you be there for yourself because you are the only one who can actually take care of yourself. 

You are the only person who can make that rush go away.

Ending & Beginning

A phase has ended. It was a long roller-coaster ride which has finally ended. Initially you thought you had to face everything alone but God is not so cruel. He very smartly put you around his angels to take care of you. Some had their stern ways to love you and some were just adorable. Survival without them would have been really hard. You learnt a lot about people and how they act in tough situations. Initially you were a scared puppy to face everything but in the end everything turned you into a sassy and wise cat.

Obviously in that phase, there would be some lovely and beautiful moments which you never expected would happen in that manner but they did happen. You would never forget them or you should say, you can never forget them. They would make you realize what and who you are and what you need to improve. If ever given a chance to relive the past, you should chose to live them because in that tough time, you were you, the real you.

But it has ended. It is time to be strong and relish those moments forever because they are not happening again. Not only those moments but that phase has ended.  Be a strong believer in god and do strongly believe that something awesome and splendid is in store for you and you are going to have that soon.

This ending is a beginning to a new phase. A phase where you will be stronger, wiser and smarter than before.

Someone once said to me “Do whatever is good for you and makes you happy. Give your 100% in it and no hurdle will be able to shake you up because you will have trust and confidence in yourself.” Do a lot of implementation of this advice in the life ahead and  just wish that this new phase gets you what you want so you couldn't ask for anything more.